Overview: What is masturbation?

Masturbation is the self-stimulation of the genitals and pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm(sexual climax). It is a common activity which done by touching, stroking or massaging the penis or clitoris until an orgasm is achieved. It’s quite a natural and safe way to explore your body, feel pleasure, and release your sexual tension.


Question 1: Why do people masturbate?

The self-stimulus can be an additional high after performing sexually. It can also be seen as relieving the tension that an individual may have while not having any sexual partner. Sometimes even if a person has a partner may not wish to have intercourse. Masturbation is a sexually safe practice, as it does not bring on pregnancy and there are no dangers of getting sexually transmitted diseases.

Masturbation is used in medical practices as well. When couples face difficulty getting aroused or if either partner has some kind of sexual dysfunction, sex therapists may prescribe masturbation as a way to experience orgasm.


Question 2: Do most people masturbate?

Yes! Lots of people masturbate! Masturbation is a very common behavior, even among people who have a sex partner. Even if they don’t talk about it, it’s common for people of any gender or age to do it. Animal masturbation has been observed in many species, both in the wild and in captivity.

In one national study in 2013, 95% of males and 89% of females reported that they had masturbated.

“ Masturbation is the first sexual act experienced by most males and females. In young children, masturbation is a normal part of the growing child’s exploration of his or her body. Most people continue to masturbate in adulthood, and many do so throughout their lives” by Gary, W.

Question 3: Is masturbation healthy?

The medical consensus is that masturbation is a medically healthy and psychologically normal habit. According to the Merck Manual of Diagnosis and Therapy, “It is considered abnormal only when it inhibits partner-oriented behavior, is done in public, or is sufficiently compulsive to cause distress.”

No causal relationship is known between masturbation and any form of the mental or physical disorder. According to a book written by Coleman Eli, “Masturbate as a Means of Achieving Sexual Health”, masturbation is a critical component in the development of sexual health. The American Medical Association had declared masturbation as normal by consensus in 1972.

In a word, masturbation does not cause any physical injury or harm to the body and can be performed in moderation throughout a person’s lifetime as a part of normal sexual behavior.


Question 4: Does masturbation has any side effects?

1. Feeling guilty although there’s no reason for it.

It’s common to feel bad about masturbating, although there’s no reason for it. Many people worry about masturbating because there are a lot of myths out there that masturbation is dirty, dangerous, or something to be embarrassed about doing. And some people may feel guilty about masturbating because of cultural, spiritual, or religious beliefs.

However, masturbation is neither wrong nor immoral, but you may still hear messages that self-pleasure is “dirty” and “shameful”. If you feel guilty over masturbating, speak with someone you can trust about why you feel this way.


2. The risk of adding to masturbation

Many people may be worried about being addicted to masturbation once they begin. It must be pointed out that engaging in masturbation often does not necessarily mean being addicted to masturbation.

As we have mentioned before, masturbation can be a healthy and safe way of relieving urges and preventing sexually transmitted infections and diseases. Excessive masturbation, on the other hand, has a lot of negative effects.

First, we should know what lead to masturbation addiction. It’s been confirmed psychologically that two key substances play the role, dopamine, and endorphin. Dopamine is a reward neurotransmitter that allows a person to feel pleasure. Endorphin is chemicals which the body uses to counteract stress and physical exertion, making you able to relax and recover. So, while a person masturbating, dopamine is released and he/she will experience a pleasurable high which peaks off during a climax. After the climax, endorphin is released, making the person feel sated and sometimes fall asleep.

The reason why people addicted to masturbation is basically like the addiction to everything. When a person becomes dependent on these feelings and uses them to escape stressful life situations or mental problems, it opens the window for masturbation addiction to occur. Masturbation addiction can become a cause for concern when it transforms into a means to cope with issues of facing them head-on.

The point is, although masturbation is a safe and healthy way to release the stress and urges, it can have thorns like a rose.


Question 5: Techniques of masturbation / How to masturbate?

Masturbation involves touching, rubbing, or massaging a person’s genital area, either with fingers or against an object; inserting fingers or objects into the vagina or anus. It may also involve touching, rubbing, or pinching the nipples or other erogenous zones while masturbating. Both sexes sometimes apply lubricating substances to intensify sensation.


For Man

1. Set the mood

Masturbation doesn’t have to be a quickie in the bathroom. You can plan your alone time to explore some “Secrexy” that you never found.

You can simply set the “sexy and secret” scene by:

  • turning down the lights
  • playing some gentle music or your favorite erotic video
  • slowly teasing yourself
  • staying relaxed and present


2. Try different positions

There’s no reason to stick to the same routine while masturbating. Standing, leaning against a counter or the wall, or sitting up on your bed or in a chair. Different positions mean different sensations and some may bring more satisfaction. Find your own.


3. Don’t forget the “male G-Spot”

The prostate is known as the “male G-spot”, prostate massage is one other technique used for sexual stimulation. You can start off slow by using one finger to gently rub the outside and inside of your anal opening, then insert your finger gradually to massage your prostate. Adjust the speed and motion to discover your own pleasure. By the way, Prostate stimulation can produce stronger and more powerful orgasms than penile stimulation.


4. The joy of a quality sex toy

There are a number of toys available for people which can add lots of fun to a solo session.

The most common options include:

  • automatic stroker
  • fleshlights
  • prostate stimulators


5. Try some lubes, cause why not?

To avoid friction, irritation, and soreness from this resulting friction, some may prefer to use a personal lubricant, masturbation cream, or saliva.


For Women

1. Make sure you have enough time

Masturbation can be quiet a secret activity especially when it comes to women. So make sure you have enough time and privacy to not be interrupted. It can hurry but definitely don’t need to be like it’s something you have to accomplish.


2. There are many ways to trigger yourself

A sexy solo session doesn’t have to exclude foreplay. Instead of jumping right into touch yourself, why not set off slowly and “trigger” your other senses.

It should be no surprise that some people love watching porn. Watching porn can increase your libido, relieve stress, and allow you to explore your sexual kinks in a save way. However, if you’re more into the written word or prefer listening, you may enjoy some erotic stories with some sexy sounds. Audio lets your imagination run wild as you lose yourself in the details of the story.


3. Use your pillow or some stuffed toys

Especially for the first time, I recommend you to keep your panties on. Which means less wet mess and more clit friction. Find something soft, like a pillow or a stuffed animal, lay face down with your vulva on top of it, slowly grinding your hips down against it while adjusting your position. Find the best rhythm and point then take yourself the straight orgasm.


4. Use your hand especially your finger

When it comes to female, the orgasm basically have two types, clitoral orgasm, and vaginal orgasm. Both of them are finger needed when you don’t have an assistant such as a vibrator or a dildo.


5. Get to know some sex toys or even try some

Suitable sex toys can bring you to orgasm easily. Most popular sex toys for women are vibrators and dildos. Depends on what kind of solo play you enjoy. It’s not hard to imagine, dildos usually used when penetration is involved. For the beginner, vibrators are recommended for a clitoral orgasm.


Last Words

Some people may feel embarrassed, guilty, or ashamed when talking about masturbation. What we would like to say is, masturbation is normal, healthy, and not something to feel guilty about.

Masturbation is a fun, sexy, and safe way to explore your desires and learn what turns you on. If you’re new to solo play or just interested in it but confused by the myths, hoping this article can be helpful.

— — Your secret sexual partner, Secrexy.


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